Hey guys!  Decided to talk about my fight.       ...with My 'friends'.     When I began my business, I would share my ideas and goals with friends.  There were some that were very supportive, those are the friends that are with me now.    Then there were those that were quite critical of my endeavors.  That would've been cool, if the input that they offered was qualified/substantiated by a knowledge or an extensive amount of experience with what I was getting into.  It wasn't.   Then, there were those that were just not at all receptive, reciprocal or supportive.  That was really interesting because a lot of them were 'friends' that I spent a lot of time with.       So... WHAT THE HELL?!?!?? Why was this happening?      I started to retrace my steps and analyze the person I was/am.  Have I been supportive of others' endeavors?    I thought back to quite a few instances where I absolutely hadn't.    WHY?  Well, for the most part, there were a lot of my friends that just had different ideas about life in general.  My moral compass will not allow me to get involved with some things... but others, I just wasn't ready.    I, myself, wasn't ready.   It wasn't my 'friend' that I would not support.  It was the fact that, though we were afforded the same opportunities,  they  were taking advantage of their situation... and I wasn't.  I wasn't ready.    It clicked!!!   The support of my 'friends' is sometimes more about them being able to be challenged to be great... greater, than being in my corner rooting for my success.   It's a really tough thing; being challenged.   Seeing another person seizing opportunity when their circumstances are so similar to our own, can be downright depressing.    So I started making the most of my own situations.    I found that I inspired people that I did not know personally, so deeply and profoundly, while some of those closest to me seemed unfazed by everything going on in my life.  ... But they weren't.     They were battling with their own issues.  Accepting their friend and their friend's success.  As I did.    This is definitely NOT the only reason people don't support others.  It  IS  however, something that I have experienced and have seen in others (that we later confirmed).  All this to say, I cut a lot of people out of my life that really just didn't know how to be truly supportive.  But it was more about them, than me.  It sucks nonetheless.    I battle with trying to be supportive of others while challenging myself all the time.  It has made appreciate others' achievements.  I am also more understanding of my friends that CANNOT accept what I am doing whether it is about me or them.    YES!! it's true, I could really suck. I could be a little delusional, but maybe I'm not.    So with just so much as a kind word.  I try to support others.    Pay it forward!  It could inspire absolute greatness.  Most of all it will promote positivity and we REALLY need that nowadays.  Just saying.   Keep fighting!  Never know who'll be inspired.     a.    

Hey guys!  Decided to talk about my fight.    

...with My 'friends'.  

When I began my business, I would share my ideas and goals with friends.  There were some that were very supportive, those are the friends that are with me now.  

Then there were those that were quite critical of my endeavors.  That would've been cool, if the input that they offered was qualified/substantiated by a knowledge or an extensive amount of experience with what I was getting into.  It wasn't. 

Then, there were those that were just not at all receptive, reciprocal or supportive.  That was really interesting because a lot of them were 'friends' that I spent a lot of time with.  

 

So... WHAT THE HELL?!?!?? Why was this happening? 

 

I started to retrace my steps and analyze the person I was/am.  Have I been supportive of others' endeavors?  

I thought back to quite a few instances where I absolutely hadn't.  

WHY?  Well, for the most part, there were a lot of my friends that just had different ideas about life in general.  My moral compass will not allow me to get involved with some things... but others, I just wasn't ready.  

I, myself, wasn't ready.  
It wasn't my 'friend' that I would not support.  It was the fact that, though we were afforded the same opportunities, they were taking advantage of their situation... and I wasn't.  I wasn't ready.  

It clicked!!! 

The support of my 'friends' is sometimes more about them being able to be challenged to be great... greater, than being in my corner rooting for my success. 

It's a really tough thing; being challenged.  
Seeing another person seizing opportunity when their circumstances are so similar to our own, can be downright depressing.  

So I started making the most of my own situations.  

I found that I inspired people that I did not know personally, so deeply and profoundly, while some of those closest to me seemed unfazed by everything going on in my life. 
... But they weren't.   

They were battling with their own issues.  Accepting their friend and their friend's success.  As I did.  

This is definitely NOT the only reason people don't support others.  It IS however, something that I have experienced
and have seen in others (that we later confirmed).

All this to say, I cut a lot of people out of my life that really just didn't know how to be truly supportive.  But it was more about them, than me.  It sucks nonetheless.  

I battle with trying to be supportive of others while challenging myself all the time.  It has made appreciate others' achievements.  I am also more understanding of my friends that CANNOT accept what I am doing whether it is about me or them.  

YES!! it's true, I could really suck. I could be a little delusional, but maybe I'm not.  

So with just so much as a kind word.  I try to support others.  

Pay it forward!  It could inspire absolute greatness.  Most of all it will promote positivity and we REALLY need that nowadays.  Just saying. 

Keep fighting!  Never know who'll be inspired.

 

a. 

 

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